Thursday, May 20, 2010

I thnk I lost a friend today.

I'm not sure what went wrong or why it went wrong but it seems like it did.

This person lives close to me and we used to spend spring and summer afternoons and evenings talking about life, kids, money. You name it, we talked about it.

Ever since she found out that we took our son out of middle school and started to homeschool him, things haven't been the same. She's going back to school to possibly work in the medical field and her husband got a different job (same field, different employer). I understand that going back to school is stressful and then you are busier than all get out. But does that require this person to ignore me and not even say Hello?? I'm going back to school PLUS I'll be homeschooling my son next fall (can you say stressful??). Maybe I'm reading too much into this, but it just seems like ever since I told her that we would be homeschooling she's a totally different person. Her kids used to come and play with my boys and now it's few and far between. And please don't tell me it's because of the routine of school and nighttime rituals and stuff. We have that but I'm not anal about it. As long as my kids are in their rooms, in their beds by 9:30 p.m. I'm fine.

Do you think I'm reading too much into this?? Should I approach her?? (don't really want to). I don't know.

Kelly

6 comments:

Dottie Paullin Kornafel said...

Obviously there is something wrong somewhere. I know you don't want to approach her but sometimes the direct route is called for. Why not just call her and invite her over for coffee/tea/dessert. Or maybe call her and ask her opinion about something or other. Maybe the both of you going back to school. Then see how she reacts. Maybe she feels threatened by your homeschooling your children and that hers will now want the same thing. Or talk to your sons about her boys and have them invite them over. I never had this situation so I really not much help. Just some ideas that may or may not be good ones.

blueladie said...

Kelly,
How very hurt your must be. I wish I had some advice, but you can only follow what your heart tells you. It's very hard to lose a friend. I know that, but I don't know what the answer is. I will pray for you. Love, Cathryn

GoldenAngelsWorks said...

I think I would give it a little time. Could be that she is just trying to figure out how to support you or how just to deal with everything.

Hope things get better for you and your family. Wish I were closer.

Alice said...

I'm a direct person so I would just tell her I was missing our times together and was afraid our relationship was becoming strained.I would tell her how much she truely meant to me and ask had I done something to her that had hurt her feelings in some way.I would tell her how sorry I was if I had and discuss what ever came about from this. Maybe you both will feel better.This might not be the right answer for you just what I would do. I homeschool and it usually causes your childrens friends to want the same thing causing alot of stress in that home so she could be pulling away from you and not even realizing she just may want some relief from her home pressure from her kids.

Meari said...

My first thought is there's something more going on than simply being busy. If it bothers you that much, I'd approach her about it. At least then your mind can put it to rest.

lizzy201040 said...

i think that you should if she was your friend or IS your friend then for sure you should be able to talk to her about it youknow and then whether or not it is good news or not you will know and be able to move on you know...